Thursday, September 25, 2014
Where to go from Here?
At that low point, the Road to Happy was an unknown entity. Since DDay in October of 2010, I had established residence in Crazy Town. To find a Road to Happy that led out of that dismal, convoluted habitat I required the combined skills of Vasco de Gama and Sigmund Freud....OR other betrayed spouses that had traveled the Road before me. They were my Map. This blog was the path that led me to that map.
That first day, when I turned to the screen of my iMac longing for an electronic epiphany, I don't remember what I was looking for. I know I started the blog before I began to surf the web searching for other possible remedies for my plight. I spent hours that first day online.
Where in the hell did I get the idea to write a blog? Beats me. I had never read a blog, any blog, not even one about cooking or child rearing or the latest fashion trends. Before that day, I had never visited a single web site that offered advice about Surviving Infidelity. (which was the first online forum I found. It was so big it over-whelmed me. One size does not fit all. Soon I found the Healing Heart. It was a much better fit. I felt so safe there.)
Googling 'how to heal after you discover your spouse is a cheating bastard' just never occurred to me. Guess I'm kind of old school, but more than that....I think I wasn't ready to start walking my Road until I was ready to let "She who will no longer be named" go.
(That's right. No more "J" name around here. I might refer to her in a derogatory way from time to time, but I will not be typing her name on the pages of this blog again)
When you're ready to find your Road and take strong strides forward, you'll know. It's a surge in your attitude, good or bad. It could be a renewed sense of determination....or in my case, elevated desperation. That's when you'll reach out for help. It might be in the form of finding a new therapist. Maybe a lengthy trip to the local Barnes and Noble self help section. For me, it was extended time in cyber space and an urgency to empty the venom out of my soul.
Now that my story of "A Year After the Affair" is done, we have an opportunity to morph this blog into whatever we desire. Here's the way I see it...
I'll do my best to post when I have a fresh thought I deem beneficial to other betrayed spouses in need of a little GPS. (Girl Powered Support!)
BUT....this blog would be better, greater, helpfuler, (that should be a real word!) if All of You shared your experiences here as well. We should work together to transform this blog from it's beastly beginnings to a safe sanctuary for others that have yet to find their map, or even the desire to start looking for their Road to Happy.
Please send any topics, questions or experiences you want to share to my email: Shawnthewife@aol.com
All views and members of the adultery triangle welcome with one stipulation only...
No haters allowed!
That's it. Simple enough.
Thank you for being my Map, my guides and my motivation.
This blog was the first path on my Road to Happy. I really hope it can be a least a stepping stone on the Road for other betrayed spouses, too.
Hope & Hugs, my Friends.