After an affair, your life doesn't belong to you anymore. For over a year, I couldn't control my own thoughts.
The turmoil in my head was viciously repetitive but savagely random. With this blog, I began to exorcise the demons holding my head hostage.

Tuesday, February 26, 2013

Awaiting Moderation...Sucks

Just a quick note about comments here.  Until now, I have been very liberal about comments.
I left it all open.  Anybody could say anything.
Like trying to get the emails from Jaymie...that wasn't workin' out for me.

I had to add the "awaiting moderation" thingy to my blog comments.
My lack of computer skills is well known, so I hope the damn widget works.  I won't be 100% sure until some of you post a comment or two.  
Please don't let this keep you from talking to me anymore!  I love hearing from all of you.
I will do my best to sift through the comments quickly and respond to all!

I'm bummed.  I so want this to be a truly open forum.
Unfortunately, it had to be done.  There are a whole lotta freak shows out there!
Sorry, Friends!  Hope & Hugs!


Anonymous said...

I want to apologize to all the woman that have been betrayed by the one they gave so much to I love my wife and children more then anything that could be imagined but yet I still stepped out on my marriage risking everything I love my children's happiness my wife's heart just because someone showed me interest being attracted to me boosting my self esteem I look back and think what a selfish ass why didn't just say thank you but I'm married to a wonderful woman who loves me and I her more then words can describe so to my wife I hope you can forgive me and move onto build a better and stronger marriage wether its with me or someone that can bring you happiness and to all you unfortunate wives and husbands that have been betrayed iam sorry for your pain and hope you find happiness sincerely the unfaithful ass

shawn thewife said...

To the Unfaithful Ass: Maybe you should show your comment above to your wife. I think it would mean a great deal to her.
Many betrayed spouses come to accept that sometimes very good people do incredibly awful things. That doesn't mean they can't redeem themselves. If you are truly remorseful and willing to do the real work to heal your marriage, you may be surprised to find your marriage will be stronger, happier than you ever imagined it could be.
The fact that you seem to understand why you cheated means there is a very good chance you won't do it again.
That is a huge start, my friend.
Consider trying marriage counseling. It might make all the difference. Ask your wife to go to The Healing Heart message boards. It is an online support forum for all people dealing with the aftermath of adultery. You should check it out, too. The link is at the bottom of my blog homepage. It helps to talk with others that know your pain.
Today you're the Unfaithful a year, you might come back and comment as the Forgiven Ass!
Good luck.
Hope & Hugs, Shawn

Erica said...

Shawn - don't worry about the moderation component. Plenty of blogs have them & probably for good reason, as you're discovering. This is *your* blog so you can do with it what you want & luckily for the rest of us us you want it to be a space for good healthy dialogue about something very painful. Sickos not allowed. The sickos are the ones who created these messes in the first place!

Thanks again for blogging. Makes my day to not feel so alone.