Tuesday, March 12, 2013
Hope & Hugs. We Need Both After DDay.
I began this blog HOPING that I could find my way forward out of Crazy Town. It wasn't long after I began to type that I found The Healing Heart message boards. It was there that I received an abundance of Virtual Hugs from many caring former betrayed spouses. I remember the first question I read on the forum...."Is it normal to have a ton of sex right after DDay?"
Whaaaat??? Someone else was banging their cheating bastard of a husband every which way, 3 times a day, besides me??
I know....not the kindest thought for that poor woman, but such a relief for me! Even better when I read the many replies to her quandary.
To summarize: "It's called Hysterical Bonding and it's completely normal."
Oh my Lord! I might be normal! For the previous year I had done a pretty damn good impression of a certifiable whack job, but maybe it was normal to be a whack job after you find out your husband of 30 years was writing love poems to a 24 year old dip-stick while screwing her at the local casino!
That, my friends, was the moment I exhaled, expelling complete despair from my body,
and embraced HOPE.
Wouldn't it be wondrous if we could help someone do that here?
I'm taking another detour from my story to ask you, my dear readers, what do you need? What should I write about that might shed a little light on the darkness of infidelity? What do you want to know from the other readers that are a bit further down the Road to Happy?
There's still so much I wish I knew! I have lots of questions, new ones daily.
Example: Is it just plain nasty that I still can't even type whore-bag-Jaymie's name without adding a dig or two with it? Is it wrong that I insist on reminding my readers that she was dumb as a box-o-rocks?
How can I get to a place of serenity about the hatred I harbor for the skanky twit?
Yeah...I still need a whole lotta help. That's why I continue to blog. I know there's a kinder, gentler Shawn in there somewhere, but I'm gonna need lots of hope & hugs from my friends to help find her.
Let's compare notes. Let's help each other. Let's share Hope & Hugs.