After an affair, your life doesn't belong to you anymore. For over a year, I couldn't control my own thoughts.
The turmoil in my head was viciously repetitive but savagely random. With this blog, I began to exorcise the demons holding my head hostage.

Saturday, August 17, 2013

I have an Excuse!!

I wanna check in and let you all know why I may not be able to continue my story for a while.  Maybe you don't care.  Maybe no one out there misses me when I go on hiatus, but I miss you.  Therefore...I need to make my excuses for my absence.  (BTW...that previous sentence about you missing me was NOT, I repeat NOT me fishing for an out pouring of reader love. Although, I could use a hug right now.)

My life is always busy.  That's how I like it.  Busy and productive with a heavy dose of fun thrown in.  Most working moms are crazy busy, too, so that really isn't much of an excuse.  It's just that the last few weeks have escalated into a whole new level of crazy.  Not Crazy Town crazy...crazy busy.  There just are not any spare minutes these days.
When I have a few precious moments to relax, I become a "Mombie".  I drink wine and I veg in a near comatose, zombie like state.  I have legitimate excuses.  They are as follows:

Excuse Number One:  We are getting our house ready for a relative onslaught!  That's relative as a noun, not an adjective.  We are hosting my Grandpa's 100th birthday celebration!!  I've mentioned my Grandpa in this story.  He deserves the best birthday party ever and I intend to deliver.  Richard and I have spent every extra hour preparing for this festive event.  Gotta say, when I watch Richard shoveling gravel, or painting the fence working to make our yard look it's best for my uncles, aunts, cousins, nieces and nephews, my heart swells because I know he loves my family as much as I do and even knowing his mistakes, they love him right back.

Excuse Number Two:  Water Polo.  Holy Crap, People!  High School sports are a HUGE commitment!  My favorite time to write is first thing in the morning before anyone else is awake.  Now, we wake up at 5:00am for practice!  That's just the first practice of the day!  The second starts at 2:30.  No problem. Not like that's just right in the middle of the whole damn day!!  Not like I have to go to work or anything!!  Even though I am a planner/organizer extraordinaire (if I do say so myself!) the grueling schedule of training for this season of Bull-Dogs Water Polo is wearing me out!

Excuse number Two & a Half:  My son dislocated his shoulder at said Water Polo practice.  That's a big time ouchie for a 15 year old and a big time suck for Mommy.  First, the trip to the ER.  You all know that is never expedient.  Then, there's the follow up!  Primary care, a orthopedist and the ever popular MRI!  Waiting to see the surgeon next.  Crap.  My poor kid still goes to every practice.  Sits, watches and wishes he was in the pool with his team mates.  I haven't told him but I'm pretty sure his water polo career is over, at least for this season.

Excuse Number Three:  My friend Nikki and I own a small retail shop.  I think I've mentioned that before.  July and August means trade show season.  Lots of traveling to stock our store with lovely, tempting merchandise.  We've been to LA twice, Dallas once and we are heading to Vegas tomorrow.  Don't get me wrong.  I love my job.  It just gets in the way of family life once in a while and then the mommy/wife guilt creeps in.  Guilt is a useless emotion but normal and inevitable.

Excuse Number Four:  I got the freakin' flu!!  Who gets the flu in August?? Oh, yeah...that's right!!  ME!  I get the flu with a fever and stomach cramps and chills...the whole shebang!  I was in bed for 19 hours!!  Do you know how many posts I could crank out in 19 hours?  Such a waste!
On the bright side, I did lose 4 pounds.

There you have it.  I don't know when I'll be getting back to the story.  We're getting to the end of the drama.  The next part is about Daddy James raking me over the coals in an email.  Good Christian Daddy James used some naughty words, too!
Let's face it.  I deserved every bit of his wrath.  I make No Excuses.


BS said...

I will miss you.

Hope grandpa has a wonderful 100th

shawn thewife said...

(((BS))) Thanks! I need this blog! It keeps me out of Crazy Town so I won't be gone too long!!
Hope & Hugs, Shawn

Anonymous said...

I'll be looking forward to your triumphant return. :)

Anonymous said...

Enjoy your family. I eagerly await your return! You have saved my sanity on many an occasion, and I am not ready to give you up yet. I will have to re-read your old posts to tide me over. Enjoy your son's sports, their teen years go by way too fast. Hugs and speedy recover from the flu.

TryingHard said...

Wish you weren't going. I will ,is you but I get it. BTW wanted you to know the OW is dying of cancer. Shouldn't be around for too many more months. WTF. I should feel bad but I don't. People have actually said that ill be happy when I hear this and the they tell me. Vi say I knew and I wasn't happy or unhappy. I don't care. Guess I need to see my shrink again. Infidelity the gift that just keeps on giving. Hugs and take care

Elle said...

Good excuses, all. For the record, I too got the flu last week. I never get sick (well, almost never). Didn't lose a pound, even though I hardly ate. What's the point of getting sick if it doesn't kick-start a diet?


Erica said...

Hi Shawn - You sound extremely busy. Happy 100th to your grandfather! Pretty amazing & sounds like you're going to throw an amazing party in kind! Wonderful. Hope you're feeling better (I heard a flu/cold thing was going around SoCal - we all got it) so that you can thoroughly enjoy the party. And sorry about your son too.

We'll be thinking of you & eager for your return. Best of luck!

Kate M. said...

All very good reasons for taking a break, Shawn. But I'll miss you! My visits here from time to time have been a sanity-saver. I don't say much (so often it's just really hard for me to find words for all of this) but I'm one of your most grateful readers. Happy Birthday to your Grandpa! Looking forward to your return.

fenix said...

You are forgiven but bummed I have to wait on the next installment this story is freaking awesome LOL

tkme2mts said...

A little late commenting, but RE: Excuse #3--I would LOVE to shop at your scrapbook store!! Hope you had fun at CHA!! :)

carlijot said...

Aug has been crazy busy in my household too. I totally understand. I hope Sept. brings some calm for you! And really hope the 15yo's shoulder heals quick! I know how much the kids hate missing sports because of injury. thanks for always sharing your journey with us. I really hope it's as healing for you as it is for the rest of us. <3

shawn thewife said...

tkme2mts: I don't have a scrapbook store. I sell Mexican art and women's wear. I don't even know what CHA is!!
Wish I was more of a crafty girl, but DNA is severely lacking in the creativity department!
Hope & Hugs, Shawn