I was never a fan in the truest sense of the word. I admit, what little I knew of Ms. Angelou was because of Oprah. I just never paid a great deal of attention to all she had to share. She seemed lovely, kind, caring and capable of influencing some very powerful people. I had never read any of her essays or autobiographies before, but since she passed yesterday, I have heard and read many of her most memorable quotes.
This one stood WAY out from the pack.
"I can be changed by what happens to me.
But I refuse to be reduced by it."
We are ALL changed by infidelity. All of us. The betrayed, the cheaters, the affair partners.
In so many ways we will be altered forever. BUT...we do NOT have to let the havoc and devastation "reduce" us. No way. We MUST refuse to let the woeful unfaithfulness render us "less" than we have always been.
In fact, my hope and ultimate goal is to rise above the duplicity, the deception, the wrongfulness and the bitterness to become substantially more than I was before DDay. I want US, Richard and I and all of you to do much more than endure. We can INSIST that we grow into caring spouses and friends that are enhanced by the pain instead of diminished by it.
In very simple words that come much easier to me...Adultery sucks. It kicked my ass and rocked my world and changed me in many ways, but it will NOT drag me down forever. I won't allow it! I intend to rise above it. Join me, won't you?